co-parenting counseling

the kids come first

Co-parenting counseling is all about improving the kids’ experience. We work toward developing parents who can communicate with each other, and who understand each other - even if they don’t like what they understand.

Kids can adapt to different rules in separate households; think about how the art teacher and math teacher might run their classes differently, and kids are ok with that. What really messes with kids is conflict between the adults that love them. We work to diminish that conflict.

you know your kids best

As parents, you know your kids better than anyone else does. Still, it can sometimes be difficult to see what needs to change from the center of the interpersonal dynamic. When you and your co-parent want help navigating your different approaches to concerns, support blending two households, or strategies to improve family relationships, it’s time to consult a professional.

As relationship experts with extensive experience in couples dynamics, family relationships and divorce, we can see through a history of conflict and help distill the conflict to a simple misunderstanding. We understand the stages of child development and we know what types of approaches help kids grow into self-led adults. We can boil down the best approaches into practical, bullet-point strategies that you can practice every day. We check in on your progress and implement accountability during our work together.

you do you

While there are guidelines for good parenting and strategies for reducing conflict, every parent and every child comes to a relationship with unique gifts, skills, and preferences. In our work together, we respect you as unique, separate individuals and engage your particular parenting brilliance to bring out the best in your kids.

how we work

We work efficiently, and in our first 50-minute session we’ll dive right in to current issues. Often, we can resolve a current concern in one to three sessions. As we work, history will come up, but only as it is relevant to current concerns. Once we’ve gotten to know you through our first few sessions together, it’s easy for you to get in touch again in six months or a year when a new concern arises, and we can often work things out in a few sessions. We’re also happy to work together at regular intervals for the maintenance of a co-parenting relationship, and we meet with any combination of parents or step-parents, depending on what feels most effective for conflict resolution.